PROBLEMS AND SUFFERING.
Problems, problems, problems… they are everywhere and we need to face them. Yoga and meditation can help you to do that. Yoga is more than mere asanas. It is a whole philosophy base in love and compassion. Yoga teaches you a new way to see the purpose of life and that view helps you to change and improve your life.
Suffering is part of life and we cannot avoid it; but we can change the way we face pain and problems. Suffering is caused by different aspects and situations of life; but we need to approach those aspects and situations with a new perspective. So the first thing we need is a new way to think: NEW IDEAS!
The matter here is that emotions and thoughts are connected to each other. What is the root of them?
Philosophers from around the whole planet and from different times had try to get the answer a simple human question: What is the reason of suffering? Yes, yogi know that karma in involved on this matter; but we need to open our mind to more ideas.
THE FOUR NOBLE TRUTHS!
1> ALL LIVING BEINGS SUFFER.
2> THE CAUSE OF SUFFERING IS DESIRE.
3> THERE IS THE NIRVANA (Extinction of desire and therefore suffering)
4> THE EIGHTFOLD PATH.
This article is not about explaining those great and noble truths; but about something simple: How they are related to facing the problems.
The first idea is just powerful: WE ALL SUFFER. Yes, it is true. We suffer in one way or another. Some people lack money, others love, others health, etc., etc., etc. The list could be endless.
Here we have to point out that we have a natural tendency to focus on negative things. We usually think something negative. The Bhagavad Gita points out that the nature of the mind is like the water: It tends to fall!
How can we explain this?
PROBLEMS AND THE NATURE OF THE MIND.
We have to be aware of this mechanical behavior. We have to see how the mind brings negative thoughts when we have a problem. Stop for a moment and remember: YOU ARE NOT THE MIND.
When you have a problem you should stop and calm down. Breathe deeply and do not rush to do something. There are situations where you need to think fast; but there are other situations where you can stop and think twice.
Rushing to solve a problem is not a good idea, only if time is a matter; an emergency situation, for example.
When we face a problem we are facing two problems. One is the problem itself and the other one is our mind. The mind will bring the worst scenario. It does not mean it must happen that way. It is only the idea of our mind.
Sometimes, not always, it is good to see our mind as an strange. Yes, as another person with his/her opinions and ideas. So, pretend that your mind brings a negative idea about something that is happening. Well, think it is his/her idea, it is his/her opinion; but it does not mean it has to be that way. It is the same way as if another person was telling you what would happen. Well, that person is guessing; so it might be true and it might not be true.
The Bhagavad Gita states that the mind can be our best friend or our worst enemy. It explains that if we control the mind then it becomes our best friend; but if we do not control the mind then it becomes our worst enemy.
If we let out mind to take control with those negative ideas then we could become crazy or have a struck.
The best we can do when we have a problem is to remember that the mind will come with negative ideas; but they are only its opinions. Then approaching a problem with this idea makes us realize that it has to be another side: A positive side!
Being positive helps more than being pessimistic. Nevertheless, do not think of magical solutions. Do not cross your arms thinking that a solution will come even if you do not do anything. The idea is to be calmed, but you have to do something to solve the problem.
One day a man went to see his Master. He told his Master that he was gaining faith and because of that he left his camel outside the cave, but he did not tied up the animal. His Master told him to go to tie up the camel. He added you have to do what you can do and God will do what is beyond your capability.
The nature of the mind is to bring many thoughts and ideas about the situation; but usually it brings negative thoughts and negative ideas. The mind is focusing on the problem; but not in the solution. The more you think of the problem the more the problems grow.
We have to learn to focus on the solution; but not in the problem. Sometimes, you need to have a long walk to calm down and think better.
Are there some tips to face our problems? Yes. Let us check some of them.
TIPS TO FACE PROBLEMS:
The past is gone, the future is an enigma; the only thing you have is the present. What is good from the past? The lessons. Do not hold the past on your shoulders, but do not forget the lessons. Holding the past will make you suffer for something you cannot change. Stand up and move on.
The mind will bring all kind of negative thoughts and it might bring the worst scenario; but it is only its opinion as a person giving his/her opinion. So, face it: It might not happen that way. It is a lot better to face problems with optimism.
Do not rush to fix or solve any problem. Take your time to think twice and calm down. If you rush you might make a mistake and make the problem harder. Rush only for a real emergency that needs action right away; an accident for example.
NO, I do no mean you have to wait crossing your arms and without taking action. That is not intelligent. Faith is believing in you, in your capacity to do something. Well, if you believe in something superior that might help you then keep your faith. Nothing can be achieved without faith.
5> DO NOT OVER THINK!
The more you think over and over about a problem the worst it might become. Why? The mind tends to bring negative thoughts. Calm down, try to relax, keep your faith, and take it easy. Yes, it is easy to say and not easy to do, but you have to try. Thinking too much on any problem is not a solution.
Yes, here is where yoga asanas and breathing meditation comes into action. Stress will never help you to solve a problem; but relaxing your body and your mind might help you to bring new and fresh ideas on how to overcome a problem.
7> LOOK FOR ADVICE.
Yes, we need advices sometimes. We are just humans and we need someone to tell us and advice; but do not ever forget this: The decision is yours. An advice is a suggestion not a command, so at the end the decision is up to you. This takes us to the next tip.
8> TAKE RESPONSIBILITY.
We are responsible for our own life and we have to be responsible for any decision taken by us. When you take a decision and blame a person for any advice then you are not responsible of your actions. This will bring bitterness and you will always complain against a person who gave you and advice.
9> DO NOT COMPLAIN.
Complaining is useless and brings bitterness.
These nine tips come out from common sense. Remember: SOLVING A PROBLEM IS BETTER AND/OR EASIER WHEN YOU FACE IT WITH THE PROPER WAY.
PROBLEMS AND MEDITATION.
Buddhism, for example, pays a lot of attention to the study of the mind. Actually in Buddhism the idea is to get inner silence through meditation. The mind is always thinking, even when we are sleeping. We all know what happen to a computer which has several programs running on the background. Yes, it makes the computer to run really slow. The same happens to the mind: It gets slower when you have many things to think. So, if we avoid thinking on many things and we think of one specific task or problem then we are in a proper position to do that task better or to solve that problem in a better way and maybe faster.
One of the big ideas of meditation is to achieve inner silence, it is to avoid thinking on many things and bring your attention on one specific object.
Meditation helps you to really focus on the solution, not in the problem.
MORE TIPS TO FACE THE PROBLEMS:
This ancient technique is a need for our life. It calm down ourselves and it lets us focus on the solution of any problem.
2> FOCUS ON THE SOLUTION.
We have to do this when we think of a problem. But people focus on the problem and they get worry or confused. The more you think of the problem the more worry and confuse you will get.
3> DO NOT FOCUS ON WHAT YOU DID NOT.
Usually people focus on what they did wrong or what they did not. It does not help. Let it go. The matter is to get a solution to the situation.
4> PRACTICE KARMA YOGA.
Yogis understand that all effects have a cause. Problems have a cause and it is a negative cause. We need to build positive causes to create positive effects. So practicing karma Yoga you will create positive effects on your life.
5> PRACTICE YOGA ASANAS AND BREATHING.
Yoga asansas and breathing promotes relaxation; the latter promotes balance and then you can calm down to focus on the matter: The solution, not the problem.
DO WE NEED PROBLEMS IN LIFE?
- Problems make us stronger and smarter.
- Without problems life could be boring.
- We need challenges to go beyond our limits.
- Problems make us face our weak points to improve ourselves.
- Will power is developed thanks to the problems of life.
So, there you have some more reasons why we need to see problems with another point of view.
Animals face problems in a very different way than humans do. Animals face only a problem at a time. They are hungry, for example, and then they look for food. They are being chased then they run away or they defend their lives. It looks pretty obvious, right? Nevertheless, humans face two problems at a time and that is always!
We are hungry, for example, and we complain because we do not have enough many, then we course the government or someone, finally we try to see what we can do about that; but we keep complaining of the government or someone. The other example is that we are being bothering by someone and we run or defend ourselves, but we complain about that person and we hate that person and feel resentment. Then we course that person for the rest of our life.
What of you see on those examples? There are two problems. One is the problem itself, the other one is the problem created on the mind.
Problems are great to study our human condition and the behavior of our mind. See? There is another great reason to have problems. Your choices are:
1> You can face problems complaining and with the fury of your mind.
2> You can separate yourself from the problem and see the problem without the interpretation of your mind. Pretty easy, right? We wished it was so!
Life needs problems because we need problems; but we do not need to create problems. Creating problems is really silly; it lacks intelligence. The matter is to face the problems with the proper way.
I hope these tips help you to face your problems in a better way. Remember: The way you face your problems will affect the way you fix or solve the problems. The best way to face a problem brings the best way to fix it or solve it.
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