The whole world is full of violence, hatred, racism, bulling, war, revenge, etc. It is funny that some people think we are civilized. I really do not think so. Most of the people are not. There are too many persons full of negative emotions and they live without control; they live as savages. They do not have principles and they do not care about others. How can we call then humans?
Negative emotions turn people into savages. We cannot accept that fate to our life. We can change and become real humans and we need to get rip off these negative emotions or, at least, we need to control them. How can we do that?
HATRED AND VIOLENCE VS LOVE AND PEACE!
What kind of world is this? Civilized? I do not think so. We have a great technology and our science is developing; but we, as humans, lack basic principles to live in harmony, in peace and with love. I am sorry, but I cannot say that every person from this planet is human.
Negative emotions destroy humanity. Modern people lack many things that real humans have: Respect, honor, forgiveness, tolerance, comprehension, charity, philanthropy, love, etc.
Hatred is one of the most awful negative emotions and it might be the worst of them. It is the opposite of love. It might be the main element that causes violence. Nevertheless, people like violence and they like spreading it all around: They up load videos of teens fighting. What if you were the person fighting there? What if that was your brother or your sister or your children? Please, stop from promoting violence!The funny part is they want a better world, they want peace; but they are promoting hatred and violence.
The destiny of humanity is in danger because everybody wants to solve problems by force. Did people learn any lesson from Mahatma Gandhi? He was able to free India from England without fighting back. Hatred and violence will always bring hatred and violence. Why do we have to follow the road of hatred and violence if there is a path one thousand more beautiful: LOVE AND PEACE?
We should spread all these ideas all over and maybe, I just say "maybe", we have a chance to avoid another big war among all nations.
FRUSTRATION, RESENTMENT AND HATRED.
Frustrations are adding up and one day they are too much for a person to handle them. Resentment comes as a response, sometimes, of the frustrations accumulated in life. The more frustrations the more resentment we are holding. That combination becomes a timing bomb ready to explode sooner or later.
Many violent people are not bad. They are just full of frustrations and resentment. They really need help. They need love and compassion. Love can defeat that bitterness they feel in their heart. Compassion can understand the suffering they went trough.
We all have bad days and many people have moments of real confusion or disappointment. There are too many problems in life. There are many things people wish they could do; but they could not. There are many dreams that never became true. What about that friend who betrayed us? What about that love that was gone?
Yes, we are humans and we have positive and negative emotions. We do not need to be slave of negative emotions. We can be free of them or at least we can learn how to control them. How could anyone be happy if he/she feels frustration and resentment?
Frustration and resentment are really bad and they can become even worst when they build hatred. Resentment is a poison to the heart and to the soul. It starts with almost nothing. Maybe the way someone watch at us, maybe because someone did not say hi, maybe because a friend did not help us, etc. The problem is that our mind keeps recording all those little things. Then one day the mind brings all the memories and then we feel a negative emotion: Resentment.
Resentment is being built on the background. The person is not aware of it! That is why he/she becomes a victim of such negative emotion. In the beginning it is small and we do not pay attention to that. At the end it becomes hatred and then it might become out of control.
Hatred can make people to do really bad things because hatred calls revenge! The person who said that revenge is sweet was really dead, spiritually dead. That person had not heart. That person was far from being human and he/she was really far from understanding the process of frustration, resentment and hatred. Moreover, he/she was not aware of what he/she was talking about.
The pleasure of revenge is deadly and the way to pay for it can be huge. Karma makes you pay every wrongdoing and it is the size of the revenge. All great masters talk about this law of the universe: Action and reaction. You receive what you gave. It is simple as that.
It is a lot better to understand why we accumulate frustration and resentment. It takes time, but the outcome is a blessing.
There is hope on the road. That hope is called: FORGIVENESS!
There are places where teach people to handle anger and frustration. If you really cannot control yourself then you have to visit a place like that or visit your doctor. Do not worry about being violent, just look for help. This is really important. The first step is simple: Be aware that you have that problem. You are not alone. there are many people under the same situation. Think of the people who trust you and love you because being violent can destroy any relationship sooner or later. It is so hard for people to trust us; but it is so easy for them to lose that trust.
There is a website called: MINDTOOLS. There is a nice article about this matter. A part of the article talks about Danger of Anger:
“Frequent anger poses health risks too. One study found that people who get angry regularly are more likely to suffer from coronary heart disease, eating disorders, and obesity. Research has also found a correlation between anger and premature death. Further studies have found that there is a link between anger and conditions such as anxiety and depression.”
I invite you to read the whole article:
Anger Management: Williams' 12 Strategies for Controlling Aggression
There are many ways to deal with anger and violence, that article tells you some good ones. There are other tips too. Please read my article: Tips to improve your mood and your health (link at the bottom).
The best is to go all the way deep down into the root. Meditation can take you there, so you can forgive those who did anything wrong to you and to the one you have to forgive the most.
The world has too much violence already; please do not add it more. Kids and teens need good examples of people controlling their emotions and learning to be kind, generous, nice, etc. If adults do not control themselves then… How can they ask the younger generation to do so?
There is only one way to spread love and compassion, there is only one way to spread peace and harmony; that way is us. Yes, do not expect others to try to change because they are waiting for others tool. We and only we can build a better world. Awareness is really important but it starts with us.
A real change is possible; but it goes from one person to another one. If anyone needs help then he/she must look for help. We need to stop violence, w need a better world. It is up to us! Spread the news; spread these ideas all over because we need a better world for the new generations!
FORGIVENESS: A MAGICAL TOUCH!
If someone hurts you then your task is to forgive that person for many reasons that I will explain later; but you cannot forget what that person did. It is important to keep the lesson and you know now that you cannot trust that person any longer. This is true most of the times; but one day it could be an exception.
WHY DO WE HAVE TO FORGIVE OTHERS?
Some reasons to forgive a person are here:
- If you do not forgive that person and he/she keeps bothering you then you will develop resentment and frustration to end with hatred and maybe violence against that person, which is revenge.
- Resentment and hatred will create a poison to your heart. This poison will make you to hate other persons or at least not to trust anyone else.
- Resentment and hatred will intoxicate your whole life and you will not be in peace.
- These negative emotions will destroy your capacity to focus on your daily practices and in your work area.
- Forgiving will release all your inner tensions and will free your inner energies to move according with the flow of nature.
- Forgiving will destroy the poison of resentment and hatred.
HOW TO FORGIVE!
The first thing you have to do to forgive anyone is this: accept yourself as a human being and therefore as a person with mistakes. This is very important because when you accept yourself as a non-perfect being then you are ready to accept that other persons are not perfect either. Therefore you come to a very easy conclusion: They did it wrong, but I made other mistakes too.
Understanding that everybody makes mistakes is great because it helps you to forgive them easily. You come to a very simple conclusion: I really need other persons to forgive me because I made mistakes too. For example, is someone did not behave properly toward my person and I got mad because of that; then I have to remember that many times I did the same or something similar.
Understanding that people make mistakes, and you too, brings something magical: The understanding of real forgiveness. This is a magical touch because now you are prepared to meditate on your enemy. He/she will not be your enemy any longer.
All this process is a lot better with meditation because it clears your mid from all your prejudices and ideas you have from others.
Forgiving yourself is really important to let your inner energies to go with the flow of nature and to fade the negative effects.
Meditation is a great tool to get deep down into a more relaxed and calmed mind. When the mind is in silence then a person can go beyond the mind and therefore beyond prejudices. Yes, that is not for beginners; but if a person keeps practicing then he/she will do amazing changes with meditation because real forgiveness is a magical touch of love and compassion.